“But you’re constantly alert, never looking into someone’s eyes when walking on the street; always aware of what to say and not to say.”
Wednesday, 27 April 2016
A word from Dana Chanel
Monday, 4 April 2016
A friendship I cherish a whole lot!
The fact that I can say that I have friends is something you could describe as a miracle. Being constantly told not to have or keep friends, you would expect that I would never enjoy the joys of true friendship. “They could destroy you or hurt you or be a sort of hindrance to you. Just be yourself," my mum used to say back then.
I believed it until I met this amazing young woman. Her name is Omotoyosi. She taught me the true meaning of friendship. Omotoyosi, "my junior" in school at that time, came into my life randomly. When I say randomly, I mean from the blues. Her mother, family members and friends were anonymous to me.
Despite the fact that I did not know her so well, I took a risk of "squatting" her in school back then. I mean, since I am not the "keep a friend" kind of person you know; I just took the risk. Time passed and we grew really fond of each other. From eating together to reading together to praying together and practically doing everything together – we were inseparable!
For someone who is not used to having an extra party cling to her, it was a wonder how I perfectly adjusted to the new phase life brought me. Difficulties came my way, and according to this saying, "In difficult times, you know who your true friends are", those were the times I realised I did not have a friend but a sister in "Yosi" (that’s what I call her).
Financially, she was there. Emotionally, Omotoyosi was a bag of advice, dishing out the right words at the right moment. I loved the fact that she was timely. Spiritually, she was God's gift to me. As a fellowship leader, she was just outstanding – a strong woman of faith.
Omotoyosi has come a long way with me and years after leaving our university, she is still my most cherished soul. If I get to find out that her heart is "literarily" made out gold, I won’t be surprised. She is definitely worth more than gold to me.
I am very glad our paths crossed and I'm glad my whole mentality about friendship has been changed as a result of this one beautiful soul...OMOTOYOSI.
Her friendship is one that means the most to me.
God bless you 'Yosi mi.
Tuesday, 1 March 2016
WHO I WOULD LIKE TO BE
Friday, 26 February 2016
Terry Crews shares his story and the dangers of Porn.
Hello dear friends. I do not know who is struggling with this addiction as I have been led to posting things about it for some time now.
I have seen people overcome this addiction and whoever is reading this and is suffering from this addiction, this is for you.
Gently read this: the story of terry Crews former NFL player and now an actor as he suffered this addiction and how he overcame.
Owning up to sin is hard. Most of us don’t want to come to the Light and have our sin exposed, as John 3:20 says. Ever since Adam and Eve hid themselves from God after they sinned, our natural human instinct has been to hide our sin from God as well as from others.
Former NFL player and actor Terry Crews recently shared his own battle with the sin of pornography, and revealed how the first step to being free from the sin was owning up to it.
In a video posted on Facebook, Crews shares his struggle with porn. For years, he said, he kept this addiction secret.
“If day turns into night and you’re still watching, you probably got a problem,” stated Crews, who is known as a “devout Christian” and has described himself as a “servant to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.” And, he adds, “That was me.”
Eventually, Crews shared, he reached a low point and realized that he had a serious addiction. He then took the steps necessary to begin recovering. He nearly lost his marriage over his addiction, but his wife chose to stay with him, he says, because he was taking steps to get help and was truly repenting.
But how big a deal is pornography, really? As Christians, we may be more inclined to recognize its harmfulness as Crews does, but many others seem inclined to minimize its power or effect.
Relevant cites a number of studies that showcase porn’s very real and dangerous effects, and also that many seem to be turning a blind eye to them.
One study by the Institute for the Study of Labor in Germany found that porn addiction actually correlates to the decline in the percentage of young men who are getting married. Another study, by Psychology Today, found that nearly 90 percent of men believed watching porn was not wrong, while over 50 percent of women believed the same.
But Terry Crews, along with numerous others who have broken free of their porn addictions, is here to be a voice in the darkness. We don’t like admitting our sinfulness; it seem much easier to quell our nagging consciences, but ultimately, taking ownership of our sin is the only way to begin to find restoration.
Crews shares with his viewers that porn is so insidious because, though you may watch it in private, it affects your public life, your relationships.
"My problem with pornography is that it changes the way you think about people. People become objects. People become body parts. And things to be used, rather than people to be loved. You start to change the way you see people. You start to use people," Crews revealed.
“Numerous studies have shown that the use of violent pornography is linked to higher rates of intimate partner violence, the purchasing of sex, and generally negative attitudes toward women. Even nonviolent pornography is correlated with higher rates of behavioral aggression, especially among people with pre-disposing risk factors.”
Though porn is a very serious sin (as any sin is serious to the Lord), there is hope. God offers forgiveness and restoration. And there are resources available for those who are ready to take the first step and surrender their sin.
Terry Crews is proof positive that lives can be transformed and sin can be conquered by coming into the light. Crews's story is one of victory because not only did he conquer the sin in his life, but he has shared his story - both in these videos and in his 2014 book Manhood - while reaching out to help others.
“Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy” (Proverbs 28:13).
Monday, 22 February 2016
JUSTIN BIEBER SAYS WITHOUT GOD, HE WOULD BE A 'TERRIBLE' PERSON
JOHN'S STORY: THE CONSTANT TRIAL OF LIVING AS A CHRISTIAN UNDER ISLAMIC STATE RULE
John is in his early 20s. He can’t say his real name, what he is studying, or in what type of business his parents were involved.
“Life in Raqqa carries on as usual in many ways. Shops and restaurants are open. There is food, electricity, and water. People are more fortunate than those living in a city like Aleppo.”
Islamic State troops won the battle for Raqqa in January 2014. After a week of intense fighting with other radical groups, they took control and declared it the capital of their caliphate.
“Before [IS won the battle] we had a scary week. We stayed in our house because everyone on the streets was being shot at.”
John watched from the side-lines as the streets filled with people shouting “Allahu Akbar” (Allah is the greatest).
“I didn’t shout it – I am a Christian. But when an IS man saw me being silent, he stopped the car. I had to say ‘Allahu Akbar’ too.
“Many in Raqqa welcomed IS, but they all now regret it.”
Soon people discovered that things had radically changed. IS started executing those they suspected to be supporters of the President or of having fought with other rebel groups against IS.
In the same week that Islamic State declared Raqqa their capital, they destroyed the interior of three churches.
“They broke everything inside – the icons, the altar, everything. One church building is now a centre for IS.”
Nobody was forced to stay in the new caliphate, and many left. In some ways life returned to normal, John said, but it was soon clear that the city was under the control of IS. They changed the names of public buildings, “Islamic State” was printed on car number plates and the group banned the use of new bank notes printed by the Syrian government.
Soon after IS declared Raqqa their capital, Christians were told how they could live under IS rule.
“We could [convert and] become Muslims and live a normal life in Raqqa, we could leave, or we could stay and pay the jizya tax. The first year the tax was 54,000 Syrian pounds [about US$300] per man – women and children are not ‘taxed’ – but last year the rate went up to 164,000 Syrian pounds per man.”
The price of gold is used to calculate the jizya; in Islamic tradition it is 16 to 18 grams of gold per year per man.
John advised his parents to leave Raqqa, but they didn’t want to abandon their home and business, and selling them was impossible. Even though many of the estimated 1,500 Christian families left, they stayed; at least it meant John could continue his studies.
John soon witnessed how IS dealt with those who didn’t obey their rules.
“I saw a lot of cruelty. Every Friday they executed people. I was there when they beheaded the first man in public. They couldn’t behead him with the first cut. He suffered so much they finally shot him.”
John described how sick he felt when IS beheaded hundreds of soldiers from Raqqa’s Syrian Army base and then pinned their heads on the fence he passed daily on his way to work. He felt IS soldiers were monsters, who could attack at any moment and for any reason.
“When I talked with them, I had to know what to say. A wrong word could offend them. Seeing all these atrocities, they don’t seem like people, they seem like monsters to me, especially after what they did to those soldiers. This traumatised me. It was too much.
“IS hung their crosses from their ears when they put their heads on the fence. What shocked me too was that I saw people taking selfies with the heads. I believe they do this to scare people, to show them what happens when you do something wrong.”
Despite the horrors he witnessed, John stayed in Raqqa because he wanted to work and continue his studies, and paying the jizya gave him some freedom.
“Because we paid the tax and had the declaration [confirming the tax was paid] always with us, no-one could harm us for being a Christian.”
The protection was important because John had to deal with IS men every day.
“I met them at work, in the shops, even in the gym.”
Only 50 Christian families left in Raqqa
It is remarkable how much John smiles when he talks about living in Raqqa.
“I got used to it. I think it has something to do with how we grew up as Christians; we’re strong people, this helped us to stay. And, yes, you can live as a Christian in the Islamic State. No-one troubles you when you pay the tax.”
However, John knows of only 50 Christian families left there. The only priest left as soon as IS took over. There is no church remaining – Christians visit each other for fellowship.
“I didn’t see them mistreat Christians because of their faith. The only thing they did was to take the homes of Christians – and anyone else – who had left Raqqa, because their soldiers didn’t have enough houses to live in.
“We never imagined this could happen. Christians in Raqqa were respected. It was a normal Syrian city with no radical Islamic population. In my opinion, what IS is doing isn’t real Islam. I have lived with Muslims my whole life; we respected each other and lived peacefully together.”
Some IS fighters were former Christians
Despite their cruelty, John said IS fighters were normal people.
“I could talk with them normally. It was only sometimes when they discovered that I was a Christian that they changed. They were sometimes funny. Once in the gym I heard them telling jokes, albeit about all the heads they had cut off. At different times we had conversations about me being a Christian. They advised me to become a Muslim. Once I was really shocked after talking with two of them. They turned out to be Armenians. They told me that they grew up in Christian families, that both of them had converted from Christianity to Islam. Their beards were not that long yet, they were quite new in IS. I later heard that one of them blew himself up as a suicide bomber.
“One day on a bus I met one of my old classmates. He was wearing IS clothes, had a long beard, and held a machine gun. He was convinced of the choice he had made, saying he wanted to fight for Islam and the Koran. Two weeks later he was killed in battle.
“I heard they send Syrian fighters to the frontlines; the foreigners have leadership positions. A week later the brother of this classmate also died fighting for IS. I know of one other friend of mine who joined IS. I don’t know what happened to him.”
‘Western’ haircut causes problems
There were moments when John was really afraid. An IS soldier once stopped him in the street and started shouting: “Why are you cutting your hair like this?” John showed him the paper declaring he was a Christian and that he had paid the tax, and the soldier left.
Another day, he was forced onto a bus because an IS soldier didn’t like the jeans he was wearing or his haircut.
“We drove to an underground space where there were hundreds of other men. We were all divided up –first the elderly men were separated from the younger ones, then they separated young men with skinny jeans from the others. Then they separated a group based on their haircuts. I was in that group.”
After the group had been reorganised, a Tunisian IS fighter made a passionate address to the men.
“He said: ‘You are the new generation of Islamic youth. You look like Westerners and it appears you like them and their style, but they don’t like you. People in the West hate you. Westerners are always working to get you away from Islam.’
“The ones with the skinny jeans then had to sign a document promising not to wear them anymore. Then our hair was completely shaved off and we were told to not sport this Western hairstyle anymore. I tried to explain that I was a Christian, but they didn’t pay attention to that.”
The changes in Raqqa were more radical for the women. All women, Muslim or not, have to cover themselves completely when they leave the house.
“It was hard for my mother and sister. They had to buy these clothes, which, of course, we didn’t have at home,” John said.
John learned how to respond to IS.
“One day an IS man heard my name mentioned and immediately understood that I was a Christian. I saw the expression on his face change. ‘Are you an unbeliever?’ he asked me. I replied: ‘Don’t you know this verse from the Koran that anyone who believes in God, in angels, in the books and in his prophets, in good and bad and in eternal life, is a believer?’ He was shocked that I knew this verse from the Koran and he walked away.”
Fleeing Raqqa in the middle of the night
It was because John couldn’t continue his studies in Raqqa that he eventually left the city. As far as he knows, there are no other young Christians left.
“Of course it feels better. I might not have water and electricity every day as I did in Raqqa, but I feel safer; inside I have peace. In Raqqa there was this constant fear and alertness. Where I am living now, I don’t have to be afraid of the people I meet in the streets.”
John and a few others fled the city in secrecy.
“People could leave the city if it was justified. They could leave for medical treatment that wasn’t available in Raqqa. I even heard of Christians who were allowed to go to another city to celebrate Christmas and New Year. I didn’t have a reason, so I had to leave illegally.”
He left Raqqa on a small bus with 15 others.
“I was so afraid that we would be stopped at an IS checkpoint. But that didn’t happen. We took small roads, avoiding all the known checkpoints.
“After four hours, we arrived at a Syrian Army checkpoint. They welcomed us and then asked why we were so pale. We really had been very anxious. They checked our IDs, and gave us yoghurt. It was delicious.”
John remains in contact with people who stayed in Raqqa. It isn’t easy, but “there are ways”, he said.
Asked about the attraction of joining Islamic State, John said he thinks many IS fighters were attracted by the high salaries paid at the beginning.
“I heard of 1,200 US dollars for a foreign fighter. If they had one or more wives, they would get 100 dollars per wife and 50 dollars per child. I saw them in shops with a lot of money, too much to spend.
“I think they are cheated. They really believe that what they do is right. They feel happy every time they kill someone. You can see this by how they go about executing people – every week finding a new way, even crucifying them. Thank God no Christians were executed for just being a Christian, but because they fought against the IS army.”
Living under the Islamic State for 18 months didn’t help John to understand why they needed to establish themselves in a new territory.
“They were already living in an Islamic country; in Syria the majority are Sunnis. They had their land but if they wanted to live under strict Islam they could have moved to Saudi Arabia.”
John said he is willing to serve in the Syrian Army after finishing his studies.
“I don’t want to run away. We have the right to take back our land. This is my country, not theirs. I am willing to fight for that.”
This is John's story guys. I hope this is strength for someone out there and a change of perspective.
God bless and always be thankful.
Article culled from: Christian headlines




